Wow, it's hard to believe that the children will be going back to school tomorrow. The summer has flown by as it always does, leaving me feeling rushed as the last day of vacation has arrived. Although we always look forward to the "lazy" days of summer vacation, somehow, they are always filled with appointments and activities that somehow leave us little time for that "laziness" that I crave in June.
This week has been filled with last minute shopping, Back-to-School Night to meet the teachers and my personal meetings with my children's teachers to discuss their various special needs. Of course Madison loves the shopping part, whereas Andrew would rather be home doing anything else. They both enjoyed meeting their teachers, discovering the other students who will be in their class and exploring their new classrooms. And then there are the first teacher conferences that I set up before school starts each year.
Because both of my children have special needs, I feel it is important to schedule a meeting with their new teachers before they ever step foot into their new classroom. For Madison, this gives me an opportunity to go review her IEP with her new teacher so that she will be familiar with the accommodations that Madison is supposed to receive during the year. This year when I contacted Madison's teacher, I asked to meet with her, stating that I knew she would be changing classes for subjects. Her email reply asked if I would like to meet with the entire 5th grade team, as Madison would probably be working with each of them at one time or another. That immediately gave me positive feelings about the year. The meeting went well. The entire team listened to me discuss Madison's background, her strengths and weaknesses. They also asked questions and gave suggestions as to how they could make modifications in the classroom to better accommodate her. It was a truly productive and positive meeting. I am a true believer that when the student, teachers and parents work together, the education process works at its best.
Andrew's meeting was less involved, but yet just as important. I needed to explain to his teacher what eosinophilic esophagitis is and what impact it has on Andrew. She needs to be aware that he is on an elemental diet and will need to drink his "juice boxes" at various times during the day. Andrew also asks that I go into his class the first day of school and help him explain to the class why he can only drink. So I needed to set up a time with the teacher for me to do this. The meeting went well and I will meet with the class tomorrow.
Here's to a great year! First conference....done!
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Tuesday, August 24, 2010
Monday, July 19, 2010
Individualized Education Program (IEP) and Tips for Parents
With August quickly approaching, so is the beginning of school...at least for those of us that live in the south. The start of school also means IEP meetings for many of us with children with special needs. Below I have given an overview on Individualized Education Programs (IEP), as well as listing resources to help parents prepare for an IEP meeting, whether it be your first or your fifteenth. Hope you find this post useful.
An Individualized Education Program is mandated by the Individuals with Disabilities Acts (IDEA). The IDEA requires the public schools to develop an IEP for every child that has met the requirements to be considered in need of special education or related services.
In order for an IEP to be successful, parents, teachers, other school staff, and even sometimes the student must work together to identify the student's needs and the best way to address them. So if your child has been identified with a learning disability and is eligible for services, the next step is to set up an IEP meeting.
An Individualized Education Program is mandated by the Individuals with Disabilities Acts (IDEA). The IDEA requires the public schools to develop an IEP for every child that has met the requirements to be considered in need of special education or related services.
In order for an IEP to be successful, parents, teachers, other school staff, and even sometimes the student must work together to identify the student's needs and the best way to address them. So if your child has been identified with a learning disability and is eligible for services, the next step is to set up an IEP meeting.
Tuesday, June 29, 2010
No I CAN'T -- Yes, You CAN - Building Your Learning Disabled Child's Self Esteem
Reading has always been a struggle for Madison. It has taken a long time, has been challenging to figure out words, and she just plain has not liked it. This is all related to her Visual Processing Disorder. In order to help her with this she has endured Vision Therapy for 2 years--the problem is, she does not recognize the progress she has made. She has programmed herself to believe that reading is difficult, and will be difficult, regardless of the gains she has made over the past couple of years. So the question is, how do we reprogram our children to believe that they CAN do something that has been forever difficult and challenging to them? How do we encourage them to take the risk to forge ahead? How do we get them to ignore that "bully" in their mind telling them "this has always been difficult, therefor I still can't do it and I don't want to try...I'm just going to fail".
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
Learning Disabilities and End of Grade Standardized Testing
I always dread the end of the school year. There is so much pressure put on students regarding end of grade standardized testing. The teachers have pressure put on them for their students to perform well, so many of them in turn put pressure on the students. This can cause even the best of students stress and anxiety. So what about the children with learning disabilities? Research has shown that these students experience more stress and anxiety on tests than their non learning disabled peers. So imagine having to cope with your disability as well as an added amount of stress.
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
Eos Awareness Week: Day 3
Did you know that all of the funding for Eosinophilic Disorder Research comes from private providers. The National Institute of Health currently provides $0 in funding for research for these diseases that are rapidly on the rise.
Today is the day to PARTICIPATE in Eos Awareness Week. A few suggestions given by apfed.org are:
*VIRTUAL WALK – Encourage those in your community to participate in APFED’s
National Eosinophil Awareness Virtual Walk. Get together some friends or your local
support group, Register online, collect pledges, and then meet at local park for a
“Walk” and social event.
*SIGN UP: Take the day to commit to participating in an APFED event, like
attending the conference this summer. Get registered at: APFED 2010 Conference
*ATTEND A LOCAL APFED EVENT: Check the Fundraising Page of the APFED
website to see what events are planned in your area and show your support by
attending. The list will be updated as events come in.
*WEAR YOUR APFED SHIRT: A simple way to participate is by wearing your
APFED t-shirt. If you don’t have one, you can purchase one by visiting the APFED
Store.
Monday, May 17, 2010
National Eosinophil Awareness Week - Day 2
As I had mentioned previously, this week, May 16 through May 22 is National Eosinophil Awareness Week. I am going to try to share different videos, stories or activities throughout the week in celebration of this week.
My first entry is an article that I wrote for CNN ireports:
Life Without Food: National Eosinophil Awareness Week - May 16 through May 22
May 16 – May 22 is National Eosinophil Awareness Week. What is that you may ask? My son suffers from the most common Eosinophilic Gastrointestinal Disorder (EGID), Eosinophilic Esophagitis (EE). I will try to paint you a picture…
Think about food…how many times you eat each day, how much you enjoy the smell as it is being prepared, the anticipation of a favorite meal or going out to a restaurant, the flavor of your favorite food when it touches your tongue, your morning cup of coffee, the sense of togetherness you enjoy when you share a meal with family or close friends, the excitement you or child gets when they see and then bite into their birthday cake, holiday meals with loved ones, taking a spontaneous trip to the ice cream parlor with someone special on a hot summer day…and the list goes on. There are so many ways we enjoy food as an individual and as a sense of community. Now, imagine being told that you can no longer eat food. You have to receive all of your nutrients from an amino acid formula that contains no whole or partial proteins. A formula, I might add, that is so unpalatable that most children that have to be on it have to take it through a feeding tube. Imagine you have to do this because the food that is supposed to sustain you and keep you healthy, makes you extremely sick.
This is how my son and many other children with Eosinophilic Disorders live their lives each day. My son suffers from Eosinophilic Esophagitis (EE). EE is characterized by inflammation of the esophagus with an abnormal number of eosinophils. An eosinophil is a type of white blood cell associated with allergies, parasites and cancers. In my son’s case the elevated levels are caused by food and possibly environmental allergies. Symptoms vary by case, but my son started off with reflux that did not get better with medication and chronic stomach pain. As time went on he had chest pain, throat pain, regurgitation 20-40 times a day, and vomiting after eating as well. He also has had chronic sinus infections since he was an infant and continues to suffer from croup during winter months.
EGIDs are considered rare diseases, but are on the rise. According to an article, “Looking Back on 2009” by Wendy Book, MD in EOSolutions Winter 2009, [the apfed (American Partnership for Eosinophilic Disorders) newsletter], a recent study estimates 158,700 people suffer from EE and 85,000 people suffer from eosinophilic gastroenteritis and colitis (EG-EC). Also stated in EOSolutions, EE has now been recognized as one of the most common causes of food impaction and difficulty swallowing in adults. Even so, these diseases often go misdiagnosed or mistreated for years due to lack of in depth knowledge of the disease by many doctors and specialists. There is no cure for these diseases, and they require ongoing treatment, management and procedures. The only way to test for and monitor them is by performing endoscopies with biopsies. Many patients are forced to travel hundreds of miles to a facility that specializes in eosinophilic disorders to ensure proper treatment. Therapies include food elimination diets, elemental formula diets and/or medications such as steroids and/or PPI’s. Many families, after getting proper care realize that they can’t treat their child with the one thing that will make him well (elemental formula), because most insurance companies don’t cover it, and the monthly cost can be close to many people’s mortgage payments.
At present, even with the rapid increase in prevalence of EGIDs, the National Institute of Health (NIH) allocates $0 in funding for Eosinophilic Disorders. It is of utmost importance that doctors and scientists are afforded the funding they need for important research that can lead to better lives for the many people and families affected by this disease. I know my son would enjoy being able to blow out candles on a real birthday cake one day, not one made of boxes, but this will only be possible through research that will help find a cure.
Help us celebrate National Eosinophil Awareness Week by spreading the word and visit apfed.org to learn more about Eosinophilic Disorders or to make a donation.
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
Special Needs Awareness - Follow Up
A few weeks ago I posted an entry on special needs awareness. My Parents of Special Needs Children support group at church had been asked to do a presentation at the PW (Presbyterian Women) Luncheon on children with special needs. As we prepared for this presentation, we decided that each of us would give personal quotes that would be displayed on tent cards at the tables explaining our thoughts or a specific situation we have experienced raising our children. As well as that, two of our members would speak. The first is a retired special education teacher that gave a brief overview of the vast special needs and disabilities that exist. She emphasized that only 20% of disabilities are visible. The rest of these children look just like any other child. The second member to speak, Eileen Koehler, is the mother of 3, her oldest having Asperger's Syndrome. I was so touched by Eileen's speech, I asked her if I could share it on my blog. She was kind enough to agree.
Eileen's Speech
Hello, my name is Eileen Koehler. I have been a member of DCPC for a little over a year. I have three boys, Thomas 12, Henry 9 and Owen 7. I have heard many wonderful things about the staff of the DCPC preschool and have witnessed many acts of love and compassion that all the volunteers and so many members give to all the children. DCPC members give so much of their time and talent for our children and I am so very grateful.
I have been asked to speak a little about the special needs children here at DCPC. All the diagnoses that you see on the poster boards were given to children who are members of this church. The quotes are directly from members and express what they have experienced either within the church community or outside. I realize that these diagnoses might seem trendy or new fangled. But let me suggest that we consider all the scientific advancements made in medicine; and how we readily applaud the increased chances of survival for certain types of cancer or the improvements in the treatment of diabetes, and so on. So, logic dictates that we should also applaud the advancements made in neuroscience that can offer better explanations for many child behaviors that were not known before.
Since “special needs” represents many different challenges; from cognitive to medical difficulties, I asked a mother if there was one thought that I could convey to you that would encompass what our families wish and it is this…that because we are human sometimes it is easier to look approvingly at the well behaved, self possessed child and otherwise be judgmental of the child (or the parent for that matter) that is pulling away from their parents’ touch, not responding to their name or seemingly refusing to follow instructions, avoiding eye contact, unusually reserved bordering on rudeness, bumping up in line, or a little moody because they know they cannot fully enjoy a church event due to medical issues. Whether it is genetics or the circumstances surrounding their birth, it is at that very moment when we are challenged to remember they were created by God exactly as they are and they face adversities that, in many cases, are unseen to the naked eye. I don’t know if Jesus had special needs children in mind when he said in Matthew, Chapter 18-5, “If anyone takes in a child like this for my sake, he takes in me”. But, maybe they are God’s little messengers to remind us that when it is hardest to love, that is when love is needed the most. It could be God’s way of asking us to meet that challenge and so these children are a gift from Him to bring out the best in ourselves. I remember when a physician very bluntly said that more was going to be expected of us as parents. More patience, different parenting methods, better understanding of child development, more informed about alternative educational techniques. I felt so angry….I think of myself as average and I didn’t want the expectation of being some bottomless pit of patience and a possessor of tremendous insight into child behavior. I was prepared to be a slightly improved, lovingly well-intentioned, but flawed parent much like my own mother! Even siblings of special needs children sometimes have difficulties because so much attention is given to one member of the family. They cannot articulate what they feel so they may act out in public. There is a story for all this, we landed in Holland.
If you had the chance to read Emily Pearl Kingsley’s “Welcome to Holland”, it expresses very well what our lives feel like. When you realize your child is different or when you officially receive a diagnosis, Kingsley likens the experience to having your vacation plans drastically changed from a wonderful trip to Italy to unexpectedly landing in Holland…permanently, forever. The portion that resonates with me in relation to religious faith is “But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy and they’re bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life you will say, “Yes, that’s where I was supposed to go. That is what I had planned. The pain of that will never, ever, ever go away because the loss of that dream is a very significant loss.”
That is from the viewpoint of a parent; my feelings of loss…a bunch of teenage boys coming over to the house to hang out with Thomas. All the parents here of special needs children can tell you something about their lost dream. And make no mistake, as those quotes show; we have some painful stories to share. But we also are adults and have our faith and each other to help sustain us. We need and appreciate any support we receive from all of you. However, that passage also can represent the feelings of the child who is, or will someday be, cognizant of their separateness from their peers. What about their lost dreams of party invitations, play dates, having their name called in a friendly way to join a game, having a girlfriend or boyfriend, meeting up with a bunch of kids after a movie and eating in the mall food court…but can’t because they need a special diet. They spend a lot of time at doctor offices and therapy sessions. They too can see the disapproving looks when they “don’t fit your idea of normal”. For them, like landing in Holland “that pain will never, ever go away”.
So I think to myself, maybe it is not about what I need but what our children need from DCPC, they need you. As parents we can give them all the love we have but we won’t always be there during some of the most challenging moments of their lives whether in the classroom, on the school bus, on the playground and further on in their lives when they are in college and in the workplace. It is now, in their youth, their experiences here with you at DCPC that the development and growth of their faith in Jesus’ love, as His love is expressed through your kindness, that is going to be so very crucial for their future. Because it is this very faith they are going to need when they try to find their way in a society that can lack inclusivity and even be outright unkind. They are going to need strong religious faith to sustain them when they witness all the wonderful experiences other children continue to have in Italy; the times when they feel alone and rejected, when they are tired and faced with numerous medical procedures, when they feel set apart because they need special classes to help them keep up with their peers socially or academically. So besides their own families, where else will they experience the welcoming and unconditional love of Jesus, if not here at DCPC…from all of you? We know that they can find sanctuary here and can truly believe in the love of Jesus Christ through each of you and your family’s patience, your smile, and your kind words of encouragement.
I would like to conclude with something from Matthew, Chapter 18- 10, “Do not think badly of these little children. I tell you this. They have angels in heaven. And all the time their angels can see the face of my father who is in heaven.”
Thank you Eileen for sharing this with us. It truly gives an insight into the feelings and thoughts of us as parents of children with special needs.
Eileen's Speech
Hello, my name is Eileen Koehler. I have been a member of DCPC for a little over a year. I have three boys, Thomas 12, Henry 9 and Owen 7. I have heard many wonderful things about the staff of the DCPC preschool and have witnessed many acts of love and compassion that all the volunteers and so many members give to all the children. DCPC members give so much of their time and talent for our children and I am so very grateful.
I have been asked to speak a little about the special needs children here at DCPC. All the diagnoses that you see on the poster boards were given to children who are members of this church. The quotes are directly from members and express what they have experienced either within the church community or outside. I realize that these diagnoses might seem trendy or new fangled. But let me suggest that we consider all the scientific advancements made in medicine; and how we readily applaud the increased chances of survival for certain types of cancer or the improvements in the treatment of diabetes, and so on. So, logic dictates that we should also applaud the advancements made in neuroscience that can offer better explanations for many child behaviors that were not known before.
Since “special needs” represents many different challenges; from cognitive to medical difficulties, I asked a mother if there was one thought that I could convey to you that would encompass what our families wish and it is this…that because we are human sometimes it is easier to look approvingly at the well behaved, self possessed child and otherwise be judgmental of the child (or the parent for that matter) that is pulling away from their parents’ touch, not responding to their name or seemingly refusing to follow instructions, avoiding eye contact, unusually reserved bordering on rudeness, bumping up in line, or a little moody because they know they cannot fully enjoy a church event due to medical issues. Whether it is genetics or the circumstances surrounding their birth, it is at that very moment when we are challenged to remember they were created by God exactly as they are and they face adversities that, in many cases, are unseen to the naked eye. I don’t know if Jesus had special needs children in mind when he said in Matthew, Chapter 18-5, “If anyone takes in a child like this for my sake, he takes in me”. But, maybe they are God’s little messengers to remind us that when it is hardest to love, that is when love is needed the most. It could be God’s way of asking us to meet that challenge and so these children are a gift from Him to bring out the best in ourselves. I remember when a physician very bluntly said that more was going to be expected of us as parents. More patience, different parenting methods, better understanding of child development, more informed about alternative educational techniques. I felt so angry….I think of myself as average and I didn’t want the expectation of being some bottomless pit of patience and a possessor of tremendous insight into child behavior. I was prepared to be a slightly improved, lovingly well-intentioned, but flawed parent much like my own mother! Even siblings of special needs children sometimes have difficulties because so much attention is given to one member of the family. They cannot articulate what they feel so they may act out in public. There is a story for all this, we landed in Holland.
If you had the chance to read Emily Pearl Kingsley’s “Welcome to Holland”, it expresses very well what our lives feel like. When you realize your child is different or when you officially receive a diagnosis, Kingsley likens the experience to having your vacation plans drastically changed from a wonderful trip to Italy to unexpectedly landing in Holland…permanently, forever. The portion that resonates with me in relation to religious faith is “But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy and they’re bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life you will say, “Yes, that’s where I was supposed to go. That is what I had planned. The pain of that will never, ever, ever go away because the loss of that dream is a very significant loss.”
That is from the viewpoint of a parent; my feelings of loss…a bunch of teenage boys coming over to the house to hang out with Thomas. All the parents here of special needs children can tell you something about their lost dream. And make no mistake, as those quotes show; we have some painful stories to share. But we also are adults and have our faith and each other to help sustain us. We need and appreciate any support we receive from all of you. However, that passage also can represent the feelings of the child who is, or will someday be, cognizant of their separateness from their peers. What about their lost dreams of party invitations, play dates, having their name called in a friendly way to join a game, having a girlfriend or boyfriend, meeting up with a bunch of kids after a movie and eating in the mall food court…but can’t because they need a special diet. They spend a lot of time at doctor offices and therapy sessions. They too can see the disapproving looks when they “don’t fit your idea of normal”. For them, like landing in Holland “that pain will never, ever go away”.
So I think to myself, maybe it is not about what I need but what our children need from DCPC, they need you. As parents we can give them all the love we have but we won’t always be there during some of the most challenging moments of their lives whether in the classroom, on the school bus, on the playground and further on in their lives when they are in college and in the workplace. It is now, in their youth, their experiences here with you at DCPC that the development and growth of their faith in Jesus’ love, as His love is expressed through your kindness, that is going to be so very crucial for their future. Because it is this very faith they are going to need when they try to find their way in a society that can lack inclusivity and even be outright unkind. They are going to need strong religious faith to sustain them when they witness all the wonderful experiences other children continue to have in Italy; the times when they feel alone and rejected, when they are tired and faced with numerous medical procedures, when they feel set apart because they need special classes to help them keep up with their peers socially or academically. So besides their own families, where else will they experience the welcoming and unconditional love of Jesus, if not here at DCPC…from all of you? We know that they can find sanctuary here and can truly believe in the love of Jesus Christ through each of you and your family’s patience, your smile, and your kind words of encouragement.
I would like to conclude with something from Matthew, Chapter 18- 10, “Do not think badly of these little children. I tell you this. They have angels in heaven. And all the time their angels can see the face of my father who is in heaven.”
Thank you Eileen for sharing this with us. It truly gives an insight into the feelings and thoughts of us as parents of children with special needs.
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
Eos Awareness Week May 16 - May 22
Our son, Andrew suffers from an Eosinophilic Gastrointestinal Disorder. May 16-22 is National Eosinophilic Awareness Week, and we would like for you to join us in raising awareness.
Take a minute and imagine a life without food. Think about a life with no pancakes, no cheeseburgers, no birthday cake, no cookies, no morning coffee, or no sweet tea, nothing to chew on for breakfast, lunch, or dinner. Your nourishment comes from an elemental formula (which tastes like it sounds) made up of amino acids and no food proteins. Can you imagine how a holiday meal would be? Could you imagine a life without food? What if one of the things (food) that is supposed to sustain your life makes you severely ill?
That is how many children with Eosinophilic Disorders live every day - without food.
May 16 through May 22 is National Eosinophilic Awareness Week. Eosinophilic Disorders are somewhat rare white blood cell disorders where the body misinterprets food as if it were a parasite and sends eosinophils, a type of white blood cell, to attack parts of the body.
Our son, Andrew suffers from Eosinophilic Esophagitis, the most common of these rare diseases. When he eats certain foods or is exposed to environmental allergens, his body sends eosinophils to his esophagus where they attack and damage the tissue. This disease causes chronic chest and tummy pain, vomiting, gagging, and other symptoms for him. There is no cure for eosinophilic disorders and no good treatment. The current treatments are steroids and/or the elimination of foods (in his case all foods) from the patient’s diet. Andrew is currently on an elemental only diet. He gets all of his nourishment from elemental
formula. He has not had a scope free of eosinophils or damage to the esophagus, therefor he has not
been able to add back, or trial, any foods. Very few doctors are even aware of the disease or how to
manage it. Andrew regularly goes to Levine Children's Hospital for endoscopies with biopsies, tests, and
doctor appointments.
At this time, the National Institutes of Health designates $0 in annual funding for research for Eos Disorders. Fortunately, some Congressmen have stepped forward and are trying to help change that. However, we need much more congressional support to fund the research that is needed to advance the management of the disease and ultimately find a cure.
You can learn more about Andrew's story and EE at my blog
eeldkids.blogspot.com
If you would like to learn more or make a donation for research in Andrew's
name, go to:
http://www.apfed.org/
If you would like to participate in National Eos Awareness Week, here are some things you can do:
Sunday, May 16: Send out mass emails to your friends and/or post on Facebook linking the above sites. Feel free to share any information from above.
Monday, May 17: Wear hot pink or purple (the color of eosinophils in biopsy slides)
Tuesday, May 18: Hand out dum dum suckers to your friends and coworkers. Many kids who have Eos disorders cannot eat anything with food proteins. However, dum dum suckers are safe because they only contain sugar and artificial ingredients. For many kids, this is their only safe food other than elemental formula.
Wednesday, May 19: Please send emails to your Congressmen reminding them that this is National Eos Awareness Week.
Thursday, May 20: Contact me if you would like to sample the elemental formula that Andrew has to drink each day.
Friday, May 21: “Eat like Andrew for a Day Challenge”. Even though Andrew can only have elemental formula, for today, we will pretend he has a few safe foods. Following is an example of a diet for a child with Eosinophilic Esophagitis, so on this day, do not eat anything but grapes, potatoes, pears, pork, rice, and carrots. Do not drink anything other than regular koolaid or water. Make sure you read every word of all labels, and there’s no way you can eat out in any restaurant due to cross contamination. The slightest trace could make Andrew very ill, so don’t take any chances.
Saturday, May 22: Take a few minutes to let Andrew know, through a comment on my blog (eeldkids.blogspot.com), how the “Eat Like Andrew for a Day” challenge went for you.
Thank you for your time,
Ginny and Greg Barton
Friday, April 23, 2010
Learning Disabilities and Anxiety
Anxiety, as defined by Mr. Webster, is an abnormal and overwhelming sense of apprehension and fear often marked by physiological signs (as sweating, tension and increased pulse), by doubt concerning the reality and nature of the threat, and by self-doubt of one's capacity to cope with it. Okay, for purposes of this post, let's simplify the definition to extreme or excessive worry that interferes with a child's ability to enjoy life or to perform some normal, everyday activities. Did you know that research shows that children with Learning Disabilities most likely experience higher levels of anxiety than non LD kids? Makes sense, right?
According to the article Anxiety Among Kids with LD: Three Clinical Psychologists Discuss Causes and Symptoms the research they have collected indicates that first signs of anxiety present themselves when these children enter kindergarten. One of the psychologists, Roberta Goldberg, terms it "the anxiety of not being able to keep up." The article also goes on to say that at this age most parents are not aware there is a learning disability and just feel the child isn't working hard enough. This of course adds to the child's anxiety, who already feels as if he/she can't do something they should be able to do. Most children are not identified LD until 2nd or 3rd grade or later (that is of course if they are identified at all : 30-50% of the population has undiagnosed learning disabilities.(Source - National Institute for Literacy)). Also, 44% of parents who noticed their child exhibiting signs of difficulty with learning waited a year or more before acknowledging their child might have a serious problem (Source: Roper Starch Poll - Measuring Progress in a Public and Parental Understanding of Learning Disabilities). The article Anxiety Among Kids with LD tells us that before and during the identification time period, their anxiety levels can be high. According to these psychologists, the anxiety for the LD children is the highest in elementary school, then subsides some in junior high, and subsides even more in high school.
According to the article Anxiety Among Kids with LD: Three Clinical Psychologists Discuss Causes and Symptoms the research they have collected indicates that first signs of anxiety present themselves when these children enter kindergarten. One of the psychologists, Roberta Goldberg, terms it "the anxiety of not being able to keep up." The article also goes on to say that at this age most parents are not aware there is a learning disability and just feel the child isn't working hard enough. This of course adds to the child's anxiety, who already feels as if he/she can't do something they should be able to do. Most children are not identified LD until 2nd or 3rd grade or later (that is of course if they are identified at all : 30-50% of the population has undiagnosed learning disabilities.(Source - National Institute for Literacy)). Also, 44% of parents who noticed their child exhibiting signs of difficulty with learning waited a year or more before acknowledging their child might have a serious problem (Source: Roper Starch Poll - Measuring Progress in a Public and Parental Understanding of Learning Disabilities). The article Anxiety Among Kids with LD tells us that before and during the identification time period, their anxiety levels can be high. According to these psychologists, the anxiety for the LD children is the highest in elementary school, then subsides some in junior high, and subsides even more in high school.
Thursday, April 1, 2010
Public Awareness of Children With Special Needs
As I have mentioned before I am a firm believer of support groups for parents with children with special needs. Yesterday I had a meeting with one of my support groups for "moms with special needs children". We have been asked to do a short presentation at a luncheon to spread awareness of children with disabilities. Many of the people attending this luncheon will have no concept of the vast spectrum of special needs. Many times when a person hears that a child has a special need, they may automatically think, "Oh, he must have ADHD," or one that I have heard personally, "She goes to a special class, she must be retarded." But in truth, these can be misconceptions, and there are far more categories of special needs that affect children in our society ranging from autism to learning disabilities, from muscular dystrophy to down's syndrome.
According to the U.S. Census, there are more than 54 million Americans with disabilities in the United States--that is almost 20% of our population. However, most of those special needs are not visible. The child looks just like every other child. Our support group is trying to take baby steps to spread awareness of these wonderful, special children. We would like for people to realize that things may not always be as they seem...that the child that is "misbehaving" during the sermon at church, continually knocking on the pew despite his parents attempts to make him stop, is not being disrespectful--he has autism. Furthermore, his parents are not lacking in parenting skills, they more than likely go above and beyond each day to be sure their child is afforded each service he needs to accommodate for his disability. And that child who is in fourth grade, but her parents still point to the words in the hymnal to her as the congregation sings, she is not stupid, she has a visual processing disorder and actually has above average intelligence. These two children look just like all the other children. Sometimes, it makes their disability even harder to deal with. It can also make life challenging for their parents.
According to the U.S. Census, there are more than 54 million Americans with disabilities in the United States--that is almost 20% of our population. However, most of those special needs are not visible. The child looks just like every other child. Our support group is trying to take baby steps to spread awareness of these wonderful, special children. We would like for people to realize that things may not always be as they seem...that the child that is "misbehaving" during the sermon at church, continually knocking on the pew despite his parents attempts to make him stop, is not being disrespectful--he has autism. Furthermore, his parents are not lacking in parenting skills, they more than likely go above and beyond each day to be sure their child is afforded each service he needs to accommodate for his disability. And that child who is in fourth grade, but her parents still point to the words in the hymnal to her as the congregation sings, she is not stupid, she has a visual processing disorder and actually has above average intelligence. These two children look just like all the other children. Sometimes, it makes their disability even harder to deal with. It can also make life challenging for their parents.
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
Vision Therapy
Boy, getting Madison to read is about as easy as asking someone to jump into shark infested waters. As I mentioned before, everything was (and much still is) difficult for Madison. Trying to teach her to identify the letters of the alphabet or numbers was painstakingly difficult. We tried singing, coloring letters , tracing letters in sand and whipped cream, lacing letters, making them out of clay, stamping them, making them with our body, among many other activities that I did with students in my classroom that had difficulty with letter and number identification. Many of these were useless activities that although were fun for Madison, had no lasting effect. In the end, I'm not really sure how she retained this information, I just know that it took quite a few years. And then after all that, she was expected to learn how to read...really? That process was (and is) just as difficult as letter identification. Her teachers in kindergarten and first grade continued to tell me that there was nothing to worry about, that she was "just a little behind". However, they had no idea how much effort Madison was putting in to be "just a little behind". I knew there was something more going on and decided to have her privately tested at the end of first grade. That is when we learned that she had a visual processing disorder. She is now in fourth grade.
It was good to finally have a diagnosis. We took her out of private school and put her back into public school where she could get the services she needed. I also decided to get her a tutor so that I could spend more time being "mommy" and less time being the one that was always making her "do school stuff". During this time, I tried all the reading programs I had used as teacher, as well as purchasing additional ones recommended by various educational specialists. These are some wonderful programs, but Madison still had trouble retaining visual information and learning basic reading skills. I was so frustrated for my daughter and would have done anything to make school easier for her.
Saturday, March 6, 2010
Biospy Results After Elemental Diet for Eosinophilic Esophagitis
Thursday morning we woke up and took Andrew to the hospital for an endoscopy and biopsy after 8 weeks of an elemental diet. My husband, Andrew and I all felt fairly confident going into this procedure, as 90-95% of children that are treated with the elemental diet go into remission. Between those statistics, the fact that his symptoms had nearly diminished and he finally began to gain weight (5 pounds in 2 months) we were cautiously optimistic that his scope would be clear.
Before I go on, let me explain an elemental diet and why it is used for children with EE. An elemental diet removes all sources of whole or partial proteins. This is done by having the child (or adult) either drink, as in Andrew's case, or ingest by feeding tube an amino acid-based formula, such as Neocate or Elecare. An elemental diet may be considered after a complete elimination diet of positive foods and medications have failed. The goal of the elemental diet is remission, having symptoms resolve and eosinophils clear (at least below 10). At that point, the child would begin food trials, systematically adding back one food/ingredient at a time to determine which foods are causing a reaction.
Before I go on, let me explain an elemental diet and why it is used for children with EE. An elemental diet removes all sources of whole or partial proteins. This is done by having the child (or adult) either drink, as in Andrew's case, or ingest by feeding tube an amino acid-based formula, such as Neocate or Elecare. An elemental diet may be considered after a complete elimination diet of positive foods and medications have failed. The goal of the elemental diet is remission, having symptoms resolve and eosinophils clear (at least below 10). At that point, the child would begin food trials, systematically adding back one food/ingredient at a time to determine which foods are causing a reaction.
Tuesday, March 2, 2010
Handwriting Woes
"What does that say?" "Stay in the lines." "You need to start your letter at the top." "No, no honey, this is how you hold a pencil"....Do any of these phrases sound familiar? Handwriting is a struggle for many children with learning disabilities and ADD. And unfortunately, due to the curriculum demands that have taken place over the past decade, handwriting is no longer a formal part of the curriculum in many states...including ours. Barbara Willer, the deputy executive director of the National Association for the Education of Young Children has said, "The printing and cursive are taking more of a back seat." In my opinion, this is such a disservice to children going through our school systems today.
There is a link between handwriting in early grades to basic reading and spelling achievement. The process of learning handwriting helps with letter recognition, word awareness and sentence skills. When I would teach my kindergarten students letter identification, I would teach them how to form and write the letter, as well as the sound of the letter. By giving attention to the links between handwriting, reading, and spelling a teacher can help reinforce achievement in these areas. This also allows students to translate a visual or mental image of a letter into a written form. I would also teach the proper grip of the pencil at this time. As little as 15 minutes a day of handwriting instruction has been shown to be beneficial, and as noted, it does not (and should not)need to be a stand alone subject.
Handwriting instruction is such an important part of our children's education. Especially children with special needs that may have difficulty with fine motor skills, visual processing, or attention. For any child, without proper instruction, they are just drawing the letters, but it is not automatic. With instruction and practice, they are able to form good and consistent habits. This is important because it allows them to focus on the content of what they are writing, not how are forming the letters as they write. If they have not learned these good habits and it is not automatic, they may lose their thoughts before ever getting them on paper.
There is a link between handwriting in early grades to basic reading and spelling achievement. The process of learning handwriting helps with letter recognition, word awareness and sentence skills. When I would teach my kindergarten students letter identification, I would teach them how to form and write the letter, as well as the sound of the letter. By giving attention to the links between handwriting, reading, and spelling a teacher can help reinforce achievement in these areas. This also allows students to translate a visual or mental image of a letter into a written form. I would also teach the proper grip of the pencil at this time. As little as 15 minutes a day of handwriting instruction has been shown to be beneficial, and as noted, it does not (and should not)need to be a stand alone subject.
Handwriting instruction is such an important part of our children's education. Especially children with special needs that may have difficulty with fine motor skills, visual processing, or attention. For any child, without proper instruction, they are just drawing the letters, but it is not automatic. With instruction and practice, they are able to form good and consistent habits. This is important because it allows them to focus on the content of what they are writing, not how are forming the letters as they write. If they have not learned these good habits and it is not automatic, they may lose their thoughts before ever getting them on paper.
Sunday, February 21, 2010
Elimination Diets for Kids with Eosinophilic Esophagitis
Our world revolves around food. Most events-- family and friend gatherings, holiday get togethers, birthday parties, class parties at school, after game celebrations, special treats for positive reinforcement, and just having a nice meal, all include food. Food is something we all have in common. We use food as a way a to socialize with family, friends, even co-workers and acquaintances.
So many children with EE are on either elimination or elemental diets. This can be such a scary, frustrating and overwhelming time for these children and their families. When we found out what foods Andrew was first going to be taken off, (wheat, chicken, milk, fish, and treenuts) I remember feeling devastated, overwhelmed and so sad for my son. However, at the same time, I was hopeful that this diet was going to put us on the path to remission. But my feelings were not the feelings that were most important...there was this 6 year old boy that was being told he was not going to be able to eat his favorite foods anymore. No more milk, ice cream, cheese, bread, and so many more things that you would never imagine that have these ingredients hidden in them. Going to restaurants would have to be limited, birthday cake at friends parties was a no-no, he would have to bring his own snack to his basketball games, and on and on and on. So I asked Andrew how he felt about having to go on this new diet and his reply amazed me. "I'm a little bit sad and a little bit happy. I'm little sad because I wont be able to eat some of the food I like, but I'm a little happy because I will get to try new foods." He about brought me to tears. What a mature response for a little guy, and how blessed we are to have such a wonderful son. So then it was my job to do research, buy cookbooks and learn how to change his diet and make his food, as well as our entire family's dinners "Andrew safe".
What do you think you would do if one day you were told you could no longer eat your favorite foods. Let's say you really enjoy that bowl of Corn Flakes with a nice cold glass of milk each morning. Or you look forward to that steaming cup of coffee with cream. Perhaps you really enjoy eating yogurt and a bowl of fruit, say strawberries or grapes for lunch. And how about that grilled chicken or salmon for dinner with a nice roll. And if you feel like it during the day and don't want to snack, you might grab a piece of chewing gum or suck on a mint. Now imagine that you can't eat any of these items among many, many more. How do you think you would react?
Thursday, February 18, 2010
Homework with a Learning Disabled Child
Raise your hand if you like to do homework. Hmmm, I wonder how many people raised their hands. And that's probably for the "average" person. Now imagine that you have a learning disability and the homework that takes your friends 30-45 minutes to do takes you 2-4 hours to do. This is what it is like for many children with learning disabilities, including my Madison. Then add 45 minutes of reading on top of that. Sound like much time to be a kid?
On an average day, Madison gets home around 2:15. She comes in the door, puts down her bookbag, takes out her binder, gets a snack and sits down to begin her homework. She has a reading and math pack for the week, as well as spelling, vocabulary and usually either a story from her reading book to study for a test on Friday, or a novel to study. The reading pack consists of worksheets that include passages that she has to read and then answer questions, vocabulary, grammar, etc. Reading the passages and worksheets takes her twice as long as most children. When she needs to write answers down, we have to go through her answers together,( not for the content, but for the spelling) edit, and then she has to correct it. Although she loves math, it can be time consuming and difficult for her as well for the same reasons. For these reasons I have to be by Madison's side for the duration of her homework. By the time we finish her homework it is dinnertime...anywhere between 5:00 and 6:30. And let me assure you that she is not the child that keeps getting up, doesn't focus and fidgets. She is determined to get it done because she wants to be finished. That's not to say that some afternoons are not interrupted with tears because she is frustrated that it takes her so long and she has so much to do.
On an average day, Madison gets home around 2:15. She comes in the door, puts down her bookbag, takes out her binder, gets a snack and sits down to begin her homework. She has a reading and math pack for the week, as well as spelling, vocabulary and usually either a story from her reading book to study for a test on Friday, or a novel to study. The reading pack consists of worksheets that include passages that she has to read and then answer questions, vocabulary, grammar, etc. Reading the passages and worksheets takes her twice as long as most children. When she needs to write answers down, we have to go through her answers together,( not for the content, but for the spelling) edit, and then she has to correct it. Although she loves math, it can be time consuming and difficult for her as well for the same reasons. For these reasons I have to be by Madison's side for the duration of her homework. By the time we finish her homework it is dinnertime...anywhere between 5:00 and 6:30. And let me assure you that she is not the child that keeps getting up, doesn't focus and fidgets. She is determined to get it done because she wants to be finished. That's not to say that some afternoons are not interrupted with tears because she is frustrated that it takes her so long and she has so much to do.
Sunday, February 14, 2010
Andrew's Food Free 8th Birthday
Wow! My baby is 8. Birthdays are always such a big deal for kids. They anticipate their party for months...the cake, who they will invite, what the theme will be, the cake, the treat bags, the games, oh, and did I mention the cake?
Well, cake means food, and this posed a challenge for Andrew's party this year due to his Eosinophilic Esophagitis (EE) and elemental diet. Did no food have to mean no cake? It is our tradition to have birthday parties at our house. The kids choose their theme, I frantically come up with activities and snacks that go along with said theme and of course bake and decorate the cake myself. Add kids, and voila...birthday party.
But what happens when you are celebrating a birthday for an 8 year old boy who has been taken off all food (except pure sugar). I have to say my husband and I were not entirely thrilled with the prospect of planning Andrew's birthday party this year. As we thought about what he could do, we mentioned having a bowling party to him. We thought this may be a venue that would be less focused on food with all the excitement and activity going on. Andrew was excited by the idea, especially when we mentioned that they would also be able to play laser tag. Okay, party planned for me...the bowling alley takes care of everything. Boy is that strange for me.
I did not tell Andrew I was going to do this. He knew he couldn't have a cake, and being the trooper that he is, he was okay with that. Andrew was excited when we finally revealed the cake to him, and he realized that he would have candles to blow out. I'm not sure all of his friends were thrilled with my creation and the contents of their boxes, although they were all polite and understand Andrew's diet. However, making my son happy and feel somewhat "normal" on his birthday was my main goal. If I accomplished that, then nothing else matters.
Happy Birthday (really tomorrow) Andrew! I love you!
Just another aspect of living with EE.
Monday, February 8, 2010
Myths about Learning Disabilities
Although I knew for some time that something just wasn't right when it came to Madison's retention skills of written or visual material, when the official result came in, they still completely knocked the wind out of me. I was overcome with emotion and thoughts of what this meant she might not be able to do. Will she ever read as fast as her friends, will she be able to play "Around the World" math, will she go to college? All my knowledge as an educator flew out the door, and I actually went through what I would say was a mourning period.
It took a little while, but I passed that stage (with the help of family) and moved on to the "What do I do to make this better?" stage. After all, she was still the same child that she was the day before, she just had a new "label". Knowing that she had that label didn't change anything, it just now gave me the power to get her all the help and resources she would (and does) need to be as successful as she possibly can.
I was a teacher for 8 years before I had children. My mom was also a teacher. She actually taught self contained special education. So I had experience and knowledge about children with learning disabilities (LD). I have always known the difference between myths of LD and facts of LD. However, it affects you much differently when the LD child is your own. People misjudge and make judgements. They misunderstand and jump to conclusions. So, I hope to clear up some of the myths about learning disabilities here.....
It took a little while, but I passed that stage (with the help of family) and moved on to the "What do I do to make this better?" stage. After all, she was still the same child that she was the day before, she just had a new "label". Knowing that she had that label didn't change anything, it just now gave me the power to get her all the help and resources she would (and does) need to be as successful as she possibly can.
I was a teacher for 8 years before I had children. My mom was also a teacher. She actually taught self contained special education. So I had experience and knowledge about children with learning disabilities (LD). I have always known the difference between myths of LD and facts of LD. However, it affects you much differently when the LD child is your own. People misjudge and make judgements. They misunderstand and jump to conclusions. So, I hope to clear up some of the myths about learning disabilities here.....
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